A No In Love Is Not A Failure Of Kindness
Women Learning To Set Boundaries Without Guilt
A 'no' said in love is not a failure of kindness.
Sister, the guilt you feel when you set a boundary is not proof that you did something wrong. It is proof that you have been over-functioning for a long time, and the people around you got comfortable with it.
A boundary is not a wall. It is a doorway with rules. You decide who comes in, when, and how. You are not being mean. You are being honest about what you have the capacity to carry.
Practice these sentences. That does not work for me. I am not available for that. I love you, and the answer is still no. Let me get back to you. You do not owe an explanation for every boundary. You owe yourself protection.
The right people will adjust. The wrong ones will get loud. Their reaction is information, not your assignment. Hold the line in love and watch your peace come back.
My no is also love. My no is also faith.
From Dr. Olivia
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